Counselling for men

Though women seek therapy more often than men, the number of men using counselling services has increased in recent years.

Men seem to be at risk of some emotional and behavioural issues more than women. For example, men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorders than women and are much more likely to kill themselves.

The reasons for this are both biological and cultural and often have their roots in childhood. Our culture expects boys and men to be dominant, aggressive, high achieving, competitive, self-sufficient, willing to take risks and emotionally restricted. Living up to these expectations can take a toll on men’s wellbeing.

Why men seek counselling

Although every man is different and we see men with all sorts of issues, there are some that we see commonly in men. These include:

Starting therapy

Given that our culture values self-reliance in men and discourages them from expressing their feelings, it is unsurprising that many men are hesitant to seek therapy. An important part of men’s counselling is challenging the beliefs that emotions should be kept hidden away and that it is unmanly to feel vulnerable or hurt.

Everybody feels these emotions and expressing them in therapy can make a huge difference. When we express our emotions, we no longer feel the pressure of keeping them bottled up. We no longer need to numb them with substances, distract ourselves from them with work or rationalise them away.

Our therapists are very experienced in helping clients who find it difficult to talk about their emotions. They won’t rush you or judge you.

Need counselling now?

You can book an initial appointment online or by calling us. We have male and female therapists available throughout the week. Meeting with one of them does not commit you to continuing; it is just an opportunity for you to find out more.

Our clients have reported great results!

Mr K
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“I was attending sessions at One Therapy practice for about 1 1/2 years. I am very happy with the result, sessions there really helped me. I am really grateful to my therapist. Someone recommended him to me as a high professional and it proved right, thank you.”
Mrs M
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“I can only provide positive comments on my sessions with (my therapist). This was my first experience with a therapist, and she managed to make me feel comfortable. And I must say that the sessions were helpful and efficient.”
Mrs E
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“My therapist was extremely helpful, considerate and understanding. I felt she properly understood what the issues I had were, and their underlying causes, and I feel I benefited considerably from the sessions with her.”
Mrs N
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“I immediately felt completely at ease as they were very professional while showing genuine care and interest in helping me. I was able to confront many issues which I had so far chosen to ignore despite their negative effects on my personal relationships and happiness. I would have no hesitation in recommending (One Therapy) to anyone looking to improve their relationships and self-esteem.”
Mrs L
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“I learned a lot about myself and about the relationships I make with other people. I was able to see where I was going wrong and I now make better personal choices. Thank you, again.”
Mrs R
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“I can’t thank you enough for the help and support I got from my appointments. I would highly recommend therapy to anyone now. Therapy helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. Please tell (my therapist) how grateful I am for her help.”

How therapy helps

Clients are often surprised by the breadth of positive change that counselling brings to their lives. They may come about one issue and find that several other areas of their lives improve as well.

Some of the areas where men’s counselling can help are:

  • feeling more content and satisfied
  • improving communication, whether that be with partners, family, friends or colleagues
  • reducing anger and frustration
  • building confidence
  • developing clarity around career aspirations
  • improving intimate relationships
  • overcoming sexual problems
  • understanding what blocks your success and how to change it.

Couples counselling may be the best solution if your problems are to do with your relationship, and you may find psychosexual therapy helpful if you have problems to do with sex.

Both face-to-face and online counselling are available. For some men, therapy provides their first experience of talking openly and honestly about how they feel and what they want.

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Counselling for individuals

Personal counselling can be about anything that is on your mind.

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Couples counselling

Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find solutions.

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Our therapists

We have over 30 qualified and experienced therapists to choose from.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Therapist Roz Urquhart
Roz Urquhart

Roz is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, who offers both long- and short-term psychotherapy She works with a varied client group offering a welcoming, safe and confidential therapeutic space in which to help her clients explore and process the issues that are bringing them into therapy Roz supports her clients to focus on unconscious processes, inner conflicts and...

Oxford Circus

Therapist James Eve
James Eve

James is a psychosexual and relationship therapist who has been in private practice for five years He works with individuals and couples on sexual and relationship difficulties, understanding that these can be significant causes of distress in one's life Prior to working in private practice, James worked for the psychosexual team at Croydon University Hospital He is a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Natasha Maidment
Natasha Maidment

Natasha is a person–centred counsellor and psychotherapist who will provide you with a safe, empathetic and non-judgemental space to explore any thoughts or concerns you wish to bring She works with a range of issues including anxiety, stress, critical thoughts, trauma, relationship issues, identity, depression, loss and low self-esteem Natasha offers a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Amrita Athwal
Amrita Athwal

Amrita works with adults in an integrative way, drawing on various therapeutic approaches tailored to meet the needs of each client She provides a safe space to help clients better understand themselves She offers short term and long term therapy Amrita has experience of working with clients on issues such as trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

Stamatia draws on a broad range of theories of psychotherapy She works collaboratively with her clients to understand the causes of their concern and find ways to move forward Stamatia offers both short-term and longer-term therapy She has worked in various organisational settings with individuals seeking to address relationship issues, low self esteem, separation,...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Janis Dellner
Janis Dellner

Janis offers an empathic, non-judgmental and safe environment where her clients can explore the issues that are currently troubling them  Janis works collaboratively to explore and challenge thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are no longer serving her clients’ wellbeing, interests and relationships with themselves and others  She believes it is through the...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Barbara Perini
Barbara Perini

Barbara is an accredited member of BACP, holding an MSc in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and adhering to the BACP ethical framework Her approach is open-ended, offering both short-term and long-term therapy Barbara has also trained in Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), a short-term (16 sessions), semi-structured individual therapy developed for mood...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Ben Brackenbury
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

Soho

Therapist Kerry McEwen
Kerry McEwen

A BACP registered member, qualified to an advanced-level in psychodynamic psychotherapy Kerry offers a confidential and supportive space for both short and long-term therapy Kerry believes essential to the success of any therapeutic journey is acceptance and the ability to feel safe in the presence of another The aim of psychodynamic therapy with Kerry is to support the...

Kensington