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25% off your first 6 months of individual therapy

Anger management

Anger is a natural emotion, experienced by all people from time to time

We all feel angry sometimes and that is healthy. Some people find it hard to express their anger in healthy ways, and for those people counselling can be a great support.

It is helpful to distinguish between anger and the behaviours prompted by anger. Although it doesn’t feel very nice, the emotion (anger) isn’t usually problematic; the behaviours associated with anger, however, sometimes are.

Some people become aggressive when they feel angry. They may be physically or verbally aggressive, towards others, themselves or objects. People who become aggressive usually have not learned ways to express their anger healthily. If they grew up in households where anger went unexpressed or was expressed through aggression, they wouldn’t have had a chance to learn healthier approaches to expressing anger.

Other people push their anger down, often because they are fearful that expressing it might be destructive. But that approach doesn’t work. Repressed anger eventually leaks out,  through expressions such as passive-aggressive behaviour, hostility and depression. Many people believe that contained, unexpressed anger can also contribute to serious health problems.

 

How can counselling help with anger problems?

Whether you express your anger through aggression or keep it pushed down, therapy will help by teaching you to express it constructively. This means explaining to others what makes you angry and why. Helping others to understand your perspective can be the first step in changing the situations that make you feel angry. Even if the situation doesn’t change, just speaking up for the angry part of yourself will reduce the anger.

Sometimes our anger is irrational. It may be based on a belief such as People are out to get me or Life should be better than this. This anger can lead to confrontations and push people away in relationships. In these cases, anger counselling will explore where these beliefs have come from and help you to see that they are irrational. That in turn will reduce your anger and improve your relationships.

Our clients have reported great results!

Mr K
“I was attending sessions at One Therapy practice for about 1 1/2 years. I am very happy with the result, sessions there really helped me. I am really grateful to my therapist. Someone recommended him to me as a high professional and it proved right, thank you.”
Mrs M
“I can only provide positive comments on my sessions with (my therapist). This was my first experience with a therapist, and she managed to make me feel comfortable. And I must say that the sessions were helpful and efficient.”
Mrs E
“My therapist was extremely helpful, considerate and understanding. I felt she properly understood what the issues I had were, and their underlying causes, and I feel I benefited considerably from the sessions with her.”
Mrs N
“I immediately felt completely at ease as they were very professional while showing genuine care and interest in helping me. I was able to confront many issues which I had so far chosen to ignore despite their negative effects on my personal relationships and happiness. I would have no hesitation in recommending (One Therapy) to anyone looking to improve their relationships and self-esteem.”
Mrs L
“I learned a lot about myself and about the relationships I make with other people. I was able to see where I was going wrong and I now make better personal choices. Thank you, again.”
Mrs R
“I can’t thank you enough for the help and support I got from my appointments. I would highly recommend therapy to anyone now. Therapy helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. Please tell (my therapist) how grateful I am for her help.”

Male and female approaches to anger

Typically, men and women deal with anger differently. 

Men are more likely to express their anger as aggression. This may be due to biological factors (including the male hormone testosterone) and/or social factors (aggressive expression of anger being more socially acceptable for men than other emotional expressions).

Women are more likely to have problems with unexpressed anger. They may have been brought up to believe that women shouldn’t express anger or that their angry feelings are unimportant. 

When working with anger, our therapists explore gender-related factors and the part they play for each client.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Nina Jacobson - Therapist
Nina Jacobson

Nina is an integrative psychotherapist who creates a safe, non-judgmental space in which clients feel comfortable to explore their thoughts, feelings and patterns of behaviour Nina recognises that it can be useful to talk to someone outside your circle of friends and family to gain an understanding of your challenges and emotions She helps clients think about their...

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Gregory Hamlin - Therapist
Gregory Hamlin

Gregory is a psychodynamic therapist offering both short-term and long-term therapy He appreciates how difficult it can be to seek help and therefore places great importance on creating a warm, empathic and safe space for clients to explore whatever is on their minds Gregory helps individuals uncover and understand the underlying patterns that shape their lives and...

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Damla Ciftcioglu - Therapist
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Damla offers a warm, supportive and confidential space where you can talk openly — perhaps for the first time — about the thoughts, emotions and challenges shaping your life She provides psychodynamic psychotherapy, gently exploring the deeper, often unconscious, roots of emotional difficulties Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck in unhelpful patterns, or...

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Faith Davis - Therapist
Faith Davis

Faith has two appointments available on Wednesday mornings Faith is a skilled and thoughtful psychodynamic counsellor with a postgraduate training from Oxford University She is passionate about creating a safe, non-judgemental and supportive therapeutic environment where clients can explore their most difficult experiences or parts of themselves Working at a pace that...

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Therapist Yussef Ferguson
Yussef Ferguson

Yussef is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or present personal difficulties and experiences Yussef works with issues such as anxiety, depression, loss,...

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Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

A senior therapist, Stamatia has been with One Therapy London for many years She holds a doctorate in counselling psychology and is a registered psychotherapist Stamatia knows it can be difficult to understand or cope with the strong feelings that life’s experiences can sometimes bring Talking with an experienced therapist is a way of thinking things through and...

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Therapist Michelle Taylor
Michelle Taylor

Michelle is an accredited psychodynamic therapist who works with individuals and couples She provides a calm and confidential space to allow clients to feel heard and understood Michelle has particular experience working with adults experiencing anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, addiction, bereavement and loss Michelle also works with clients with...

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Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

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Therapist Janis Dellner
Janis Dellner

Janis offers an empathic, non-judgmental and safe environment where her clients can explore the issues that are currently troubling them  Janis works collaboratively to explore and challenge thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are no longer serving her clients’ wellbeing, interests and relationships with themselves and others  She believes it is through the...

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Therapist Antonella Bonetti
Antonella Bonetti

Antonella is a psychodynamic therapist offering short- and long-term therapy to adults She also sees couples facing issues within their relationship Since obtaining her Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy, Antonella has worked in different organisational settings (charities, NHS and university counselling services) helping people from...

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July Therapy Sale

25% off your first 6 months of individual therapy

Feedback from our clients suggests that many people looking for therapy struggle to afford the longer-term, professional counselling they need. 
 
For this reason, our July offer reduces the cost of individual counselling by 25% until 31 December when your first appointment is booked and attended in July.