Infertility and fertility treatment issues

Many people assume that having children will be straightforward. It can be distressing to find out that you or your partner has a fertility problem.

For many couples, fertility problems come as a great surprise as no prior reproductive health issues had been known. Even very strong relationships can be challenged by infertility as both partners manage their own feelings while trying to support each other.

Both infertility and its treatment can be challenging

When going through fertility treatment, it can be difficult not to let infertility take over your life. Many couples struggle to maintain a sense of balance when so much is focused on the success or failure of the treatment. Life may be put on hold, with the future suddenly seeming very uncertain.

Experiencing infertility and its treatment is likely to bring up many emotions. The partner with the infertility problem may feel guilt; they may think it makes them less of a man or less of a woman. The other person may feel resentful or concerned for their partner. Both may worry whether the relationship will survive. The treatment can feel invasive and often creates a cycle of hope and crushing disappointment.

Alongside the emotional issues, infertility treatment brings practical and physical pressures. Procedures are time-consuming and, if undertaken privately, expensive. Treatments may be painful or make a person feel unwell.

After an unsuccessful cycle, the decision of whether to try again can be incredibly difficult. Couples weighing up the emotional, practical and physical costs against an uncertain outcome may find themselves in painful disagreement.

While therapy does not treat infertility itself, it can support you through the process. We can help you cope with the emotional aspects and minimise pressures on your relationship.

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Our individual or couples therapists will help

Infertility may feel like a personal struggle or like a relationship issue. Whether you prefer to come to therapy on your own or with your partner, we have warm, experienced counsellors to help you.

While therapy cannot change the outcome of your fertility treatment, it can make the process less stressful and strengthen your relationship.

If infertility treatment is successful and you manage to conceive, you may feel ready to stop therapy at that point. Alternatively, you may choose to continue your counselling through the pregnancy, as this can also be an anxious time. 

If fertility treatment is sadly unsuccessful and you stop trying to conceive, you will likely go through a period of grief. You will be in mourning for the loss of the dreamt-of child, and your relationship will need to adjust to a different future. If you wish to continue with therapy through this very difficult time, we will be happy to support you.

Getting started with infertility therapy in London

If you are considering counselling for infertility, you can book online or by phoning 0333 207 9330.

Starting therapy can feel daunting, but our counsellors will put you at ease. There is no pressure to continue after your initial consultation. It is an opportunity for you to find out more and get a feel for whether One Therapy London is right for you.

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Appointments are available on weekdays from 7.30 am until 8.30 pm and at weekends from 7.30 am until 7.30 pm. 

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Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Roz Urquhart

Roz is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, who offers both long- and short-term psychotherapy She works with a varied client group offering a welcoming, safe and confidential therapeutic space in which to help her clients explore and process the issues that are bringing them into therapy Roz supports her clients to focus on unconscious processes, inner conflicts and...

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Natasha Maidment

Natasha is a person–centred counsellor and psychotherapist who will provide you with a safe, empathetic and non-judgemental space to explore any thoughts or concerns you wish to bring She works with a range of issues including anxiety, stress, critical thoughts, trauma, relationship issues, identity, depression, loss and low self-esteem Natasha offers a...

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Yussef Ferguson

Yussef is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or present personal difficulties and experiences Yussef works with issues such as anxiety, depression, loss,...

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Therapist Rhiannon Whipps
Rhiannon Whipps

Rhiannon is a psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist with over ten years experience of working within the field of mental health Rhiannon provides an empathic and non-judgemental therapeutic space for her clients to explore any difficulties which they may be facing Within the safety of a confidential environment, she encourages her clients to openly explore...

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Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

Stamatia draws on a broad range of theories of psychotherapy She works collaboratively with her clients to understand the causes of their concern and find ways to move forward Stamatia offers both short-term and longer-term therapy She has worked in various organisational settings with individuals seeking to address relationship issues, low self esteem, separation,...

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Therapist Barbara Perini
Barbara Perini

Barbara is an accredited member of BACP, holding an MSc in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and adhering to the BACP ethical framework Her approach is open-ended, offering both short-term and long-term therapy Barbara has also trained in Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), a short-term (16 sessions), semi-structured individual therapy developed for mood...

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Therapist Catherine Hammett
Catherine Hammett

Catherine offers a safe, confidential space for clients bringing a wide range of issues to therapy  These include anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, anger and work-related stress  Catherine also supports clients experiencing depression, bereavement and life transitions  Among her specialist interests are post-traumatic growth and working with adult...

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Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

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Therapist Mita Hiremath
Mita Hiremath

Mita has been involved in the field of counselling and psychotherapy for over 30 years and has a wealth of experience working in the voluntary sector, the NHS and private practice She is a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist Additionally, she holds an MSc in Psychotherapy and is a trained EMDR therapist She has also facilitated support groups in the voluntary...

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Therapist Silvi Naskinova
Silvi Naskinova

Silvi is a psychodynamic psychotherapist offering both long- and short-term therapy  She aims to provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space for her clients to explore whatever is on their minds Her work helps individuals understand how their experiences (both past and present) and any unconscious forces might be impacting their relationships and ways of coping...

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