Self-confidence and Self-esteem Therapy

Self-confidence is a term used to describe a sense of being generally OK with oneself. Having self-confidence suggests an overall positive appraisal of one’s own worth.

Self-confidence is a somewhat abstract concept, and may mean different things to different people. It is a fluid, changeable state of being. Some people make distinctions between self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect. Others see these terms as variations of each other.​​

Why do some people seem more confident than others?

While everyone struggles with confidence occasionally, some people seem generally more confident than others. People with a healthy level of self-esteem often believe in a set of values and principles and feel secure in these principles. They often trust their own judgement and do not feel threatened by other people having differing opinions. They often trust in their own capacity to solve problems and face difficulties, and they do not generally feel inferior or superior to others.

Healthy self-esteem and confidence can lead to a more comfortable, happy and secure state of mind. Low self-esteem however can be debilitating and may leave you with an underlying sense of being ‘not good enough’ or inherently less worthy. Our confidence counsellors are experienced in many different types of therapy that can help deal with the confidence issues you are facing.

Build the self-confidence you want

Low self-esteem often originates in early experiences, and frequently in adolescence. Some people will be able to trace their confidence and self-esteem issues to certain events or experiences while others will be unaware of how their self-confidence problems started. Counselling will include some exploration of the origins of the self-confidence issues you are experiencing.

Counselling also helps with recurring negative thoughts like:

  • believing you have failed at some important task
  • believing you are not good enough
  • believing you are less worthy than other people
  • being able to find much evidence to support your negative self-view

These underlying belief systems have a self-perpetuating effect and low self-esteem can sometimes generate a powerful, relentless negative internal voice. Self-confidence and self-esteem problems are usually deeply-rooted issues that can benefit from several types of confidence therapy. Our counsellers explore these issues with you and help you deal with aspects of life that feel difficult.

Confidence counselling can help improve personal relationships, intimacy with others and the way in which you view and treat yourself. Counselling can be ongoing and open-ended or time-limited to 10 sessions. Both face-to-face and online counselling is available.

Confidence is not just something other people have. Confidence is attainable for us all.

What is CBT and can it help?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a practical talking therapy that helps people with problems and issues by addressing and changing how they think and behave. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on the present problems that are happening now and the relationships between thoughts…

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How does therapy help?

Over the years that I’ve worked as a therapist, I’ve been asked numerous times by prospective clients, “How does counselling help?”  And I’ve yet to come up with a satisfactory answer. Not because I’m in any doubt that it helps, but because the ‘how’ bit is so hard to articulate concisely…

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Our personal counselling services take place in a supportive, non-judgemental atmosphere.

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Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find resolution.

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Our therapists in London

Our therapists bring a wealth of experience and training to the therapy services we provide.

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Ameet Magan

Ameet is from London and holds an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy He has more than a decade’s experience of working in a one-to-one capacity with clients He has also trained in groupwork and has worked since 2016 as a group psychotherapist and clinical practitioner with the NHS in East London Ameet is a warm, grounded and reflective person He works with compassion...


Therapist Amrita Athwal
Amrita Athwal

Amrita works with adults in an integrative way, drawing on various therapeutic approaches tailored to meet the needs of each client She provides a safe space to help clients better understand themselves She offers short term and long term therapy Amrita has experience of working with clients on issues such as trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship...


Therapist Annie Curran-White
Annie Curran-White

With a Masters degree in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy, Annie offers both short and long term, open-ended therapy to individuals Her experience includes depression, stress and anxiety, bereavement, loss, personal development and trauma Annie has additional, specialist training working with survivors of rape, and adult and childhood sexual...


Therapist Antonella Bonetti
Antonella Bonetti

Antonella is a psychodynamic therapist offering short- and long-term therapy to adults She also sees couples facing issues within their relationship Since obtaining her Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Therapy & Counselling, Antonella has worked in different organisational settings (charities, NHS and university counselling services) helping people from diverse...



Therapist Ava Kinsey
Ava Kinsey

Ava is a qualified psychodynamic psychotherapist and counsellor She works with the NHS both as an adult psychotherapist at a complex trauma unit, and as a perinatal psychotherapist working with mothers and their infants and toddlers Before that, she worked as a psychotherapist in secondary care at the NHS, treating clients who experienced early relational/sexual trauma or...


Therapist Barbara Beyaz
Barbara Beyaz

Barbara brings a warm, non-judgmental, and accepting attitude to her work with clients As an integrative Psychotherapist, she draws from a range of theoretical perspectives which allows her to tailor therapy to the needs of the client Barbara thinks that healing and individual growth happen when difficulties in living are explored with empathy, and the client's unique...


Therapist Barbara Perini
Barbara Perini

Barbara is an accredited member of BACP, holding an MSc in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and adhering to the BACP ethical framework Her approach is open-ended, offering both short-term and long-term therapy Barbara has also trained in Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), a short-term (16 sessions), semi-structured individual therapy developed for mood...

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Therapist Ben Brackenbury
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

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Therapist Ben Marks
Ben Marks

Ben is an experienced psychotherapist who has helped many people through difficult times in their lives He works with clients with a wide range of personal issues around depression, anxiety, bereavement, trauma, abuse, loneliness, stresses within the workplace, low self esteem, relationship and sexual problems including performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction and...

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Therapist Catherine Hammett
Catherine Hammett

Catherine offers a safe, confidential space for clients bringing a wide range of issues to therapy  These include anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, anger and work-related stress  Catherine also supports clients experiencing depression, bereavement and life transitions  Among her specialist interests are post-traumatic growth and working with adult...

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