Self-confidence and Self-esteem Therapy

Self-confidence is a term used to describe a sense of being generally OK with oneself. Having self-confidence suggests an overall positive appraisal of one’s own worth.

Self-confidence is a somewhat abstract concept, and may mean different things to different people. It is a fluid, changeable state of being. Some people make distinctions between self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect. Others see these terms as variations of each other.​​

Why do some people seem more confident than others?

While everyone struggles with confidence occasionally, some people seem generally more confident than others. People with a healthy level of self-esteem often believe in a set of values and principles and feel secure in these principles. They often trust their own judgement and do not feel threatened by other people having differing opinions. They often trust in their own capacity to solve problems and face difficulties, and they do not generally feel inferior or superior to others.

Healthy self-esteem and confidence can lead to a more comfortable, happy and secure state of mind. Low self-esteem however can be debilitating and may leave you with an underlying sense of being ‘not good enough’ or inherently less worthy. Our confidence counsellors are experienced in many different types of therapy that can help deal with the confidence issues you are facing.

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Low self-esteem often originates in early experiences, and frequently in adolescence. Some people will be able to trace their confidence and self-esteem issues to certain events or experiences while others will be unaware of how their self-confidence problems started. Counselling will include some exploration of the origins of the self-confidence issues you are experiencing.

Counselling also helps with recurring negative thoughts like:

  • believing you have failed at some important task
  • believing you are not good enough
  • believing you are less worthy than other people
  • being able to find much evidence to support your negative self-view

These underlying belief systems have a self-perpetuating effect and low self-esteem can sometimes generate a powerful, relentless negative internal voice. Self-confidence and self-esteem problems are usually deeply-rooted issues that can benefit from several types of confidence therapy. Our counsellers explore these issues with you and help you deal with aspects of life that feel difficult.

Confidence counselling can help improve personal relationships, intimacy with others and the way in which you view and treat yourself. Counselling can be ongoing and open-ended or time-limited to 10 sessions. Both face-to-face and online counselling is available.

Confidence is not just something other people have. Confidence is attainable for us all.

What is CBT and can it help?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a practical talking therapy that helps people with problems and issues by addressing and changing how they think and behave. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on the present problems that are happening now and the relationships between thoughts…

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How does therapy help?

Over the years that I’ve worked as a therapist, I’ve been asked numerous times by prospective clients, “How does counselling help?”  And I’ve yet to come up with a satisfactory answer. Not because I’m in any doubt that it helps, but because the ‘how’ bit is so hard to articulate concisely…

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Individual counselling

Personal counselling can be about anything that’s on your mind.

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Couples counselling

Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find solutions.

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Therapists in London

Finding the right therapist is an important first step.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Therapist Toulla Nicolaides
Toulla Nicolaides

Consultant Therapist Toulla is an integrative relational therapist using a combination of therapeutic approaches to help her clients She provides a safe and supportive environment for individuals to explore their difficulties in life, relationships and childhood and to share and resolve confusing and overwhelming feelings Toulla believes that, though challenging,...


Therapist Ameet Magan
Ameet Magan

Consultant Therapist Ameet is from London and holds an MSc in Integrative Psychotherapy He has more than a decade’s experience of working in a one-to-one capacity with clients He has also trained in groupwork and has worked since 2016 as a group psychotherapist and clinical practitioner with the NHS in East London Ameet is a warm, grounded and reflective person He...


Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

Senior Consultant Therapist Stamatia draws on a broad range of theories of psychotherapy She works collaboratively with her clients to understand the causes of their concern and find ways to move forward Stamatia offers both short-term and longer-term therapy She has worked in various organisational settings with individuals seeking to address relationship issues,...


Therapist Jackson
Dwayne Jackson

Senior Consultant Therapist Founder and Director Jackson has lived in USA, Hong Kong and London He studied psychology in America and integrative psychotherapy in the United Kingdom Jackson is open to discussing any life experience or behaviour a client might put forward He feels there should be no shame or judgement in discussing life choices, experiences or...


Therapist Nicola Reeves
Nicola Reeves

Consultant Therapist MA Psychodynamic Psychotherapy  EMDR Practitioner Qualified Clinical Supervisor Nicola is a psychodynamic psychotherapist and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) therapist Nicola believes in giving clients time and space to approach therapy in the way they need to approach it She finds this is the best way to develop a...


Therapist Rhiannon Whipps
Rhiannon Whipps

Consultant Therapist Rhiannon is a psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist with over ten years experience of working within the field of mental health Rhiannon provides an empathic and non-judgemental therapeutic space for her clients to explore any difficulties which they may be facing Within the safety of a confidential environment, she encourages her clients...

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Therapist Marta Pisarri
Marta Pisarri

Consultant Integrative Psychotherapist Visiting lecturer at Regent's University Diploma in Somatic Trauma Therapy Advance Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy MSc in Clinical Psychology Marta is a psychologist and an integrative psychotherapist: she has been working in the field of mental health for over 12 years in both private...


Therapist Silvi Naskinova
Silvi Naskinova

Consultant Therapist MSc in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy HE in Humanistic and Psychodynamic Counselling Silvi is a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist offering both long and shorter-term therapy  She aims to provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space for her clients to explore whatever is on their minds Her work...

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Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Consultant Therapist Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring...



Therapist Patricia Connolly
Patricia Connolly

Consultant Psychodynamic Psychotherapist Patricia works within a psychodynamic approach This focuses on early life experience and  relationships to help you understand how they shape who you are in the present When you begin to more fully explore your emotions and attitudes you can find a deeper self–knowledge, which can also transform the way you relate to...