Self-confidence and Self-esteem Therapy

Self-confidence is a term used to describe a sense of being generally OK with oneself. Having self-confidence suggests an overall positive appraisal of one’s own worth.

Self-confidence is a somewhat abstract concept, and may mean different things to different people. It is a fluid, changeable state of being. Some people make distinctions between self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect. Others see these terms as variations of each other.​​

Why do some people seem more confident than others?

While everyone struggles with confidence occasionally, some people seem generally more confident than others. People with a healthy level of self-esteem often believe in a set of values and principles and feel secure in these principles. They often trust their own judgement and do not feel threatened by other people having differing opinions. They often trust in their own capacity to solve problems and face difficulties, and they do not generally feel inferior or superior to others.

Healthy self-esteem and confidence can lead to a more comfortable, happy and secure state of mind. Low self-esteem however can be debilitating and may leave you with an underlying sense of being ‘not good enough’ or inherently less worthy. Our confidence counsellors are experienced in many different types of therapy that can help deal with the confidence issues you are facing.

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Low self-esteem often originates in early experiences, and frequently in adolescence. Some people will be able to trace their confidence and self-esteem issues to certain events or experiences while others will be unaware of how their self-confidence problems started. Counselling will include some exploration of the origins of the self-confidence issues you are experiencing.

Counselling also helps with recurring negative thoughts like:

  • believing you have failed at some important task
  • believing you are not good enough
  • believing you are less worthy than other people
  • being able to find much evidence to support your negative self-view

These underlying belief systems have a self-perpetuating effect and low self-esteem can sometimes generate a powerful, relentless negative internal voice. Self-confidence and self-esteem problems are usually deeply-rooted issues that can benefit from several types of confidence therapy. Our counsellers explore these issues with you and help you deal with aspects of life that feel difficult.

Confidence counselling can help improve personal relationships, intimacy with others and the way in which you view and treat yourself. Counselling can be ongoing and open-ended or time-limited to 10 sessions. Both face-to-face and online counselling is available.

Confidence is not just something other people have. Confidence is attainable for us all.

What is CBT and can it help?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a practical talking therapy that helps people with problems and issues by addressing and changing how they think and behave. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on the present problems that are happening now and the relationships between thoughts…

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How does therapy help?

Over the years that I’ve worked as a therapist, I’ve been asked numerous times by prospective clients, “How does counselling help?”  And I’ve yet to come up with a satisfactory answer. Not because I’m in any doubt that it helps, but because the ‘how’ bit is so hard to articulate concisely…

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Individual counselling

Personal counselling can be about anything that’s on your mind.

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Couples counselling

Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find solutions.

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Therapists in London

Finding the right therapist is an important first step.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Therapist Kerry McEwen
Kerry McEwen

A BACP registered member, qualified to an advanced-level in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Kerry offers a confidential and supportive space for both short and long-term therapy Kerry recognises that painful memories are often buried deeply within the unconscious, frequently manifesting in unhelpful patterns of behaviour and ways of relating to others Additionally these...


Therapist Asma Gharbi
Asma Gharbi

Consultant Psychodynamic Psychotherapist Couples and Relationship Therapist Counselling Psychologist Asma offers psychodynamic, humanistic and integrative therapies to individuals and couples She tailors her approach to meet the needs and preferences of her clients She offers short and long term therapy Asma provides a non-judgemental space for her clients, where they...

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Therapist Geraldine Lothian
Geraldine Lothian

Consultant Therapist Geraldine (she/her) is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who works with individuals Geraldine’s style of therapy is to work collaboratively with her clients and at each client’s pace  It is sometimes difficult to make the decision to start therapy but Geraldine works together with her clients to address any issues that may feel difficult to...


Therapist Yussef Ferguson
Yussef Ferguson

Consultant Psychodynamic Psychotherapist MSc Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy BA (Hons) Social Work Yussef is a Psychodynamic Psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or...

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Therapist Magda Piesiewicz
Magda Piesiewicz

Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist MSc in Psychology Post Graduate Diploma in Clinical Sexology Magda helps couples and individuals who are facing psychosexual and relationship struggles She also specialises in compulsive sexual behaviours (often misunderstood as sex addiction) She aims to create a non-judgmental, supportive space where her clients can be open...


Therapist Marta Pisarri
Marta Pisarri

Consultant Integrative Psychotherapist Visiting lecturer at Regent's University Diploma in Somatic Trauma Therapy Advance Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy MSc in Clinical Psychology Marta is a psychologist and an integrative psychotherapist: she has been working in the field of mental health for over 12 years in both private...



Therapist Annie Curran-White
Annie Curran-White

Senior Consultant Therapist MA Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy Awareness in Bereavement Care With a Masters degree in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy, Annie offers both short and long term, open-ended therapy to individuals Her experience includes depression, stress and anxiety, bereavement, loss, personal development and trauma Annie has...


Therapist Shelly Klein
Shelley Klein

Consultant Therapist As a psychodynamic therapist Shelley brings a wealth of experience to her work and supports her patients to talk about those aspects of their lives they are finding painful, upsetting or difficult to deal with, in a confidential, non-judgmental and peaceful setting Shelley is particularly interested in working with those who are experiencing...


Therapist Patricia Connolly
Patricia Connolly

Consultant Psychodynamic Psychotherapist Patricia works within a psychodynamic approach This focuses on early life experience and  relationships to help you understand how they shape who you are in the present When you begin to more fully explore your emotions and attitudes you can find a deeper self–knowledge, which can also transform the way you relate to...


Therapist Barbara Beyaz
Barbara Beyaz

Consultant Therapist MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy Postgraduate Certificate in Integrative Psychotherapy Barbara brings a warm, non-judgmental, and accepting attitude to her work with clients As an integrative Psychotherapist, she draws from a range of theoretical perspectives which allows her to tailor therapy to the needs of the client Barbara thinks that...