Self-confidence and Self-esteem Therapy

Self-confidence is a term used to describe a sense of being generally OK with oneself. Having self-confidence suggests an overall positive appraisal of one’s own worth.

Self-confidence is a somewhat abstract concept, and may mean different things to different people. It is a fluid, changeable state of being. Some people make distinctions between self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect. Others see these terms as variations of each other.​​

Why do some people seem more confident than others?

While everyone struggles with confidence occasionally, some people seem generally more confident than others. People with a healthy level of self-esteem often believe in a set of values and principles and feel secure in these principles. They often trust their own judgement and do not feel threatened by other people having differing opinions. They often trust in their own capacity to solve problems and face difficulties, and they do not generally feel inferior or superior to others.

Healthy self-esteem and confidence can lead to a more comfortable, happy and secure state of mind. Low self-esteem however can be debilitating and may leave you with an underlying sense of being ‘not good enough’ or inherently less worthy. Our confidence counsellors are experienced in many different types of therapy that can help deal with the confidence issues you are facing.

How counselling for self-confidence problems can help

Low self-esteem often originates in early experiences, and frequently in adolescence. Some people will be able to trace their confidence and self-esteem issues to certain events or experiences while others will be unaware of how their self-confidence problems started. Counselling will include some exploration of the origins of the self-confidence issues you are experiencing.

Counselling also helps with recurring negative thoughts like:

  • believing you have failed at some important task
  • believing you are not good enough
  • believing you are less worthy than other people
  • being able to find much evidence to support your negative self-view

These underlying belief systems have a self-perpetuating effect and low self-esteem can sometimes generate a powerful, relentless negative internal voice. Self-confidence and self-esteem problems are usually deeply-rooted issues that can benefit from several types of confidence therapy. Our counsellers explore these issues with you and help you deal with aspects of life that feel difficult.

Confidence counselling can help improve personal relationships, intimacy with others and the way in which you view and treat yourself. Counselling can be ongoing and open-ended or time-limited to 10 sessions. Both face-to-face and online counselling is available.

What is CBT and can it help?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a practical talking therapy that helps people with problems and issues by addressing and changing how they think and behave. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy focuses on the present problems that are happening now and the relationships between thoughts…

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How does therapy help?

Over the years that I’ve worked as a therapist, I’ve been asked numerous times by prospective clients, “How does counselling help?”  And I’ve yet to come up with a satisfactory answer. Not because I’m in any doubt that it helps, but because the ‘how’ bit is so hard to articulate concisely…

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Amrita Athwal has worked with One Therapy in central London for many years.
Amrita Athwal

Amrita works with adults in an integrative way, drawing on various therapeutic approaches tailored to meet the needs of each client She provides a safe space to help clients better understand themselves She offers short term and long term therapy Amrita has experience of working with clients on issues such as trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship...


Annie Curran-White is a counsellor in London W1.
Annie Curran-White

With a Masters degree in Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy, Annie offers both short and long term, open-ended therapy to individuals Her experience includes depression, stress and anxiety, bereavement, loss, personal development and trauma Annie has additional, specialist training working with survivors of rape, and adult and childhood sexual...


Antonella Bonetti works as part fo a team of counsellors seeing patients presenting a wide variety of personal issues.
Antonella Bonetti

Antonella is a psychodynamic therapist offering short- and long-term therapy to adults She also sees couples facing issues within their relationship Since obtaining her Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Therapy & Counselling, Antonella has worked in different organisational settings (charities, NHS and university counselling services) helping people from diverse...



Barbara Beyaz

Barbara brings a warm, non-judgmental, and accepting attitude to her work with clients As an integrative Psychotherapist, she draws from a range of theoretical perspectives which allows her to tailor therapy to the needs of the client Barbara thinks that healing and individual growth happen when difficulties in living are explored with empathy, and the client's unique...


Barbara Perini is a psychotherapist and counsellor in W1, central London.
Barbara Perini

Barbara is an accredited member of BACP, holding an MSc in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and adhering to the BACP ethical framework Her approach is open-ended, offering both short-term and long-term therapy Barbara has also trained in Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), a short-term (16 sessions), semi-structured individual therapy developed for mood...

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One of our newest counsellors is Ben Brackenbury.
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

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Ben Marks has been with One Therapy for several years, seeing clients with a range or personal and emotional problems.
Ben Marks

Ben is an experienced psychotherapist who has helped many people through difficult times in their lives He works with clients with a wide range of personal issues around depression, anxiety, bereavement, trauma, abuse, loneliness, stresses within the workplace, low self esteem, relationship and sexual problems including performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction and...

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Seeing individuals for personal therapy, Catherine Hammett is a qualified counsellor.
Catherine Hammett

Catherine offers a safe, confidential space for clients bringing a wide range of issues to therapy  These include anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, anger and work-related stress  Catherine also supports clients experiencing depression, bereavement and life transitions  Among her specialist interests are post traumatic growth and working with adult...

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Veri Hiles is a private practice counsellor in Soho.
Ceri Hiles

Ceri works with adult clients wanting to explore a range of concerns including anxiety, depression, relationship and family problems, issues arising from physical, emotional or psychological abuse and confidence and self-esteem issues He has particular experience of working with bereavement and loss Ceri’s training in psychodynamic and person-centred approaches to...


Cora Beattie is a therapist for individuals.
Cora Beattie

People come to therapy for many different reasons; whatever your reason, therapy is a unique experience It can offer you an environment where you begin to make sense of your experiences, both past and present, and discover how you feel about them Cora likes to create a space that is both safe and supportive in which she can work collaboratively with her clients...

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