Counselling for men

Though women seek therapy more often than men, the number of men using counselling services has increased in recent years.

Men seem to be at risk of some emotional and behavioural issues more than women. For example, men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorders than women and are much more likely to kill themselves.

The reasons for this are both biological and cultural and often have their roots in childhood. Our culture expects boys and men to be dominant, aggressive, high achieving, competitive, self-sufficient, willing to take risks and emotionally restricted. Living up to these expectations can take a toll on men’s wellbeing.

Why men seek counselling

Although every man is different and we see men with all sorts of issues, there are some that we see commonly in men. These include:

Starting therapy

Given that our culture values self-reliance in men and discourages them from expressing their feelings, it is unsurprising that many men are hesitant to seek therapy. An important part of men’s counselling is challenging the beliefs that emotions should be kept hidden away and that it is unmanly to feel vulnerable or hurt.

Everybody feels these emotions and expressing them in therapy can make a huge difference. When we express our emotions, we no longer feel the pressure of keeping them bottled up. We no longer need to numb them with substances, distract ourselves from them with work or rationalise them away.

Our therapists are very experienced in helping clients who find it difficult to talk about their emotions. They won’t rush you or judge you.

Need counselling now?

You can book an initial appointment online or by calling us. We have male and female therapists available throughout the week. Meeting with one of them does not commit you to continuing; it is just an opportunity for you to find out more.

Our clients have reported great results!

Mr K
“I was attending sessions at One Therapy practice for about 1 1/2 years. I am very happy with the result, sessions there really helped me. I am really grateful to my therapist. Someone recommended him to me as a high professional and it proved right, thank you.”
Mrs M
“I can only provide positive comments on my sessions with (my therapist). This was my first experience with a therapist, and she managed to make me feel comfortable. And I must say that the sessions were helpful and efficient.”
Mrs E
“My therapist was extremely helpful, considerate and understanding. I felt she properly understood what the issues I had were, and their underlying causes, and I feel I benefited considerably from the sessions with her.”
Mrs N
“I immediately felt completely at ease as they were very professional while showing genuine care and interest in helping me. I was able to confront many issues which I had so far chosen to ignore despite their negative effects on my personal relationships and happiness. I would have no hesitation in recommending (One Therapy) to anyone looking to improve their relationships and self-esteem.”
Mrs L
“I learned a lot about myself and about the relationships I make with other people. I was able to see where I was going wrong and I now make better personal choices. Thank you, again.”
Mrs R
“I can’t thank you enough for the help and support I got from my appointments. I would highly recommend therapy to anyone now. Therapy helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. Please tell (my therapist) how grateful I am for her help.”

How therapy helps

Clients are often surprised by the breadth of positive change that counselling brings to their lives. They may come about one issue and find that several other areas of their lives improve as well.

Some of the areas where men’s counselling can help are:

  • feeling more content and satisfied
  • improving communication, whether that be with partners, family, friends or colleagues
  • reducing anger and frustration
  • building confidence
  • developing clarity around career aspirations
  • improving intimate relationships
  • overcoming sexual problems
  • understanding what blocks your success and how to change it.

Couples counselling may be the best solution if your problems are to do with your relationship, and you may find psychosexual therapy helpful if you have problems to do with sex.

Both face-to-face and online counselling are available. For some men, therapy provides their first experience of talking openly and honestly about how they feel and what they want.

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Counselling for individuals

Personal counselling can be about anything that is on your mind.

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Couples counselling provides space for couples to discuss problems in their relationship and find solutions.

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Our therapists

We have over 30 qualified and experienced therapists to choose from.

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Nina Jacobson - Therapist
Nina Jacobson

Nina is an integrative psychotherapist who creates a safe, non-judgmental space in which clients feel comfortable to explore their thoughts, feelings and patterns of behaviour Nina recognises that it can be useful to talk to someone outside your circle of friends and family to gain an understanding of your challenges and emotions She helps clients think about their...

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Gregory Hamlin - Therapist
Gregory Hamlin

Gregory is a psychodynamic therapist offering both short-term and long-term therapy He appreciates how difficult it can be to seek help and therefore places great importance on creating a warm, empathic and safe space for clients to explore whatever is on their minds Gregory helps individuals uncover and understand the underlying patterns that shape their lives and...

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Damla Ciftcioglu - Therapist
Berrak Damla Çiftcioğlu

Damla offers a warm, supportive and confidential space where you can talk openly — perhaps for the first time — about the thoughts, emotions and challenges shaping your life She provides psychodynamic psychotherapy, gently exploring the deeper, often unconscious, roots of emotional difficulties Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck in unhelpful patterns, or...

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Faith Davis - Therapist
Faith Davis

Faith has two appointments available on Wednesday mornings Faith is a skilled and thoughtful psychodynamic counsellor with a postgraduate training from Oxford University She is passionate about creating a safe, non-judgemental and supportive therapeutic environment where clients can explore their most difficult experiences or parts of themselves Working at a pace that...

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Therapist Yussef Ferguson
Yussef Ferguson

Yussef is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or present personal difficulties and experiences Yussef works with issues such as anxiety, depression, loss,...

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Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

A senior therapist, Stamatia has been with One Therapy London for many years She holds a doctorate in counselling psychology and is a registered psychotherapist Stamatia knows it can be difficult to understand or cope with the strong feelings that life’s experiences can sometimes bring Talking with an experienced therapist is a way of thinking things through and...

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Therapist Michelle Taylor
Michelle Taylor

Michelle is an accredited psychodynamic therapist who works with individuals and couples She provides a calm and confidential space to allow clients to feel heard and understood Michelle has particular experience working with adults experiencing anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, addiction, bereavement and loss Michelle also works with clients with...

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Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

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Therapist Janis Dellner
Janis Dellner

Janis offers an empathic, non-judgmental and safe environment where her clients can explore the issues that are currently troubling them  Janis works collaboratively to explore and challenge thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are no longer serving her clients’ wellbeing, interests and relationships with themselves and others  She believes it is through the...

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Therapist Antonella Bonetti
Antonella Bonetti

Antonella is a psychodynamic therapist offering short- and long-term therapy to adults She also sees couples facing issues within their relationship Since obtaining her Master’s degree in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy, Antonella has worked in different organisational settings (charities, NHS and university counselling services) helping people from...

Bloomsbury