Counselling for Men’s Issues | Therapy for Men
Though statistically women seek therapy more often than men, the number of men using counselling services has increased in recent years.
From childhood, men seem to be at risk of some emotional and behavioural issues more than women. Some reasons for this may be biological in nature and some are certainly cultural. Boys manifest behavioural difficulties and learning disabilities in primary school more often than young girls. Boys are nine times more likely to suffer from hyperactivity and more than twice as likely to be disciplined in school than girls.
Men have far higher rates of substance abuse and antisocial personality disorders than women and men are considerably more likely to develop addictive behaviour than women.
Compared to young women, young men are four times more likely to be victims of homicide and three times more likely to kill themselves. In the UK, the leading cause of death in males under 35 is suicide.
Men live under a code of masculinity that expects them to be: dominant, aggressive, high achieving, competitive, self-sufficient, adventure seeking, willing to take risks and emotionally restricted. Living up to these expectations can have a toll on emotional and personal well-being. As with psychological services, men are also less likely than women to seek medical advice for health-related problems. This is one of many factors why the average life expectancy for men is considerably shorter than for women.
Common reasons why men seek therapy in London
Although men can present a variety of problems in therapy, men generally tend to have certain issues more than others. Issues seen more often in men include:
- substance and alcohol abuse
- relationship issues
- anger issues
- impulse control problems
- difficulties feeling or sustaining intimacy
- sexual problems, erectile dysfunction, loss of libido, infidelity
- sexuality concerns (gay or bisexual feelings)
- porn addiction
- mid-life crisis issues
In addition to these common concerns, men frequently present issues of depression, self-confidence problems, family issues and career or work-related issues in therapy.
Many men in our culture are socialised to not express their feelings, but to deal with issues in a logical or rational way. They are often taught that being emotional is a bad thing. It is not uncommon for men to conceal what they feel. It is therefore not surprising that often men feel safer expressing anger rather than hurt; that some men work longer hours to avoid dealing with issues at home; that communication problems often exist in intimate relationships and emotional vulnerability is often avoided.
In relationships, men frequently overestimate their ability to sacrifice themselves for their partner. Men’s culture values freedom, autonomy and independence – sometimes making commitment to a relationship difficult. Commitment issues are a common concern brought by men to therapy.
How counselling can help with men’s issues
For many men, counselling can help by examining the emotional and psychological blocks that prevent clear communication of feelings and needs. Personal therapy can improve a man’s quality of life and promote success in careers and relationships by fostering greater self-awareness and self-confidence. Therapy can also help men with issues like infidelity, depression, anger problems, porn addiction, performance anxiety, relationship problems or sex and sexuality issues.
Couples counselling is the best solution if your problems are shared with your partner and you may also find sex therapy helpful.
Both face-to-face and online counselling are available. For some men, therapy provides their first experience of talking openly and honestly about how they feel and what they want.
We have male and female counsellors experienced in working with the issues that men bring to therapy. Appointments last 50 minutes and discussions in counselling are confidential. For more information or to book, please get in touch.
The good news is that more men are seeking counselling and psychotherapy than ever before. One of our therapists might be able to help.
Our team of therapists
We have both male and female counsellors and psychotherapists, with a great deal of experience working with men and the concerns that men bring to therapy.
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