Personal self-development

Sometimes people come to therapy not to address a particular problem, but to support their personal growth.

Being in ongoing counselling for self-development can be incredibly valuable. Without a specific problem to focus on, there is space to be curious about what makes you happy, how you get what you need in life, why you relate to others in the way you do, what you want for the future, and so on.

There are many ways to engage in self-development work on your own, such as reading self-help books or keeping a journal. These are very valuable, but there is something unique about counselling: the eyes of the therapist. 

As a trained professional, your therapist will notice things that may be blind spots to you. They will experience how you are in a relationship with them, and be able to reflect back any patterns they might spot to you.

Often when we work on ourselves, we lack compassion. We set unrealistic goals and then beat ourselves up or give up when we don’t meet them. Self-development counselling helps you to be more realistic and compassionate towards yourself, supporting you to make sustainable, long-term progress. 

How does self-development counselling help?

It is a wonderful feeling, to sense that you are growing and improving: learning new behaviours, seeing yourself more clearly, and dropping bad habits.

It can be scary too. When we have blind spots, they are blind for a reason! Self-development counselling can involve facing uncomfortable truths about yourself. But if you believe that knowing these things, so that you can choose what to do about them, is better than them remaining unconscious, self-development counselling could be for you.

Some people worry that, without a problem to focus on, they won’t know what to talk about and the sessions will be full of silence. That’s not the case. Your past experiences and your everyday life will provide you with plenty to discuss.

Our clients have reported great results!

Mr K
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“I was attending sessions at One Therapy practice for about 1 1/2 years. I am very happy with the result, sessions there really helped me. I am really grateful to my therapist. Someone recommended him to me as a high professional and it proved right, thank you.”
Mrs M
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“I can only provide positive comments on my sessions with (my therapist). This was my first experience with a therapist, and she managed to make me feel comfortable. And I must say that the sessions were helpful and efficient.”
Mrs E
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“My therapist was extremely helpful, considerate and understanding. I felt she properly understood what the issues I had were, and their underlying causes, and I feel I benefited considerably from the sessions with her.”
Mrs N
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“I immediately felt completely at ease as they were very professional while showing genuine care and interest in helping me. I was able to confront many issues which I had so far chosen to ignore despite their negative effects on my personal relationships and happiness. I would have no hesitation in recommending (One Therapy) to anyone looking to improve their relationships and self-esteem.”
Mrs L
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“I learned a lot about myself and about the relationships I make with other people. I was able to see where I was going wrong and I now make better personal choices. Thank you, again.”
Mrs R
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“I can’t thank you enough for the help and support I got from my appointments. I would highly recommend therapy to anyone now. Therapy helped me in more ways than I could have imagined. Please tell (my therapist) how grateful I am for her help.”

Taking the next step

If you are unsure whether self-development counselling is for you, book an initial consultation with one of our therapists to find out more. This is an opportunity to discuss what you are looking for and to assess whether the therapist will be able to help you. There is no obligation to continue if it doesn’t feel like the right fit for you.

Each person is unique and our therapists offer a number of different approaches to support you in the way that works best for you. If you know what type of therapy you prefer, you can find out which of our therapists offer it by reading their profiles. If you’re unsure, you may like to book an integrative therapist, as they use a range of different approaches, so can adapt to suit you. Feel free to contact us if you have any questions.

One of our counsellors would love to support your personal growth

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Therapist Andreea Gligore
Andreea Gligore

Andreea is a qualified and experienced integrative-relational counsellor who works with individuals, offering short- and long-term therapy Since completing her training, Andreea has been offering counselling services in private practice, the NHS and community services, working with clients on issues such as relationship dynamics, role and life stage transitions,...

Kensington

Therapist Roz Urquhart
Roz Urquhart

Roz is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, who offers both long- and short-term psychotherapy She works with a varied client group offering a welcoming, safe and confidential therapeutic space in which to help her clients explore and process the issues that are bringing them into therapy Roz supports her clients to focus on unconscious processes, inner conflicts and...

Oxford Circus

Therapist James Eve
James Eve

James is a psychosexual and relationship therapist who has been in private practice for five years He works with individuals and couples on sexual and relationship difficulties, understanding that these can be significant causes of distress in one's life Prior to working in private practice, James worked for the psychosexual team at Croydon University Hospital He is a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

Stamatia draws on a broad range of theories of psychotherapy She works collaboratively with her clients to understand the causes of their concern and find ways to move forward Stamatia offers both short-term and longer-term therapy She has worked in various organisational settings with individuals seeking to address relationship issues, low self esteem, separation,...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Amrita Athwal
Amrita Athwal

Amrita works with adults in an integrative way, drawing on various therapeutic approaches tailored to meet the needs of each client She provides a safe space to help clients better understand themselves She offers short term and long term therapy Amrita has experience of working with clients on issues such as trauma, addiction, depression, anxiety, relationship...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Ben Brackenbury
Ben Brackenbury

Ben believes that at times we all struggle with the challenges life has to offer and therapy provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to explore this Ben works with individuals to make sense of who they are and how they respond to the world today, and to explore new ways of being Ben is also sensitive to how difficult it might be for a client to talk to a...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

Soho

Therapist Janis Dellner
Janis Dellner

Janis offers an empathic, non-judgmental and safe environment where her clients can explore the issues that are currently troubling them  Janis works collaboratively to explore and challenge thoughts, feelings and behaviours that are no longer serving her clients’ wellbeing, interests and relationships with themselves and others  She believes it is through the...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Barbara Beyaz
Barbara Beyaz

Barbara brings a warm, non-judgmental, and accepting attitude to her work with clients As an integrative Psychotherapist, she draws from a range of theoretical perspectives which allows her to tailor therapy to the needs of the client Barbara thinks that healing and individual growth happen when difficulties in living are explored with empathy, and the client's unique...

Oxford Circus

Therapist Nicola Reeves
Nicola Reeves

Nicola is a psychodynamic psychotherapist and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) therapist Nicola believes in giving clients time and space to approach therapy in the way they need to approach it She finds this is the best way to develop a therapeutic relationship that allows feelings to be truly explored and evaluated As a psychodynamic...

Soho