Personal self-development

Sometimes people come to therapy not to address a particular problem, but to support their personal growth.

Being in ongoing counselling for self-development can be incredibly valuable. Without a specific problem to focus on, there is space to be curious about what makes you happy, how you get what you need in life, why you relate to others in the way you do, what you want for the future, and so on.

There are many ways to engage in self-development work on your own, such as reading self-help books or keeping a journal. These are very valuable, but there is something unique about counselling: the eyes of the therapist. 

As a trained professional, your therapist will notice things that may be blind spots to you. They will experience how you are in a relationship with them, and be able to reflect back any patterns they might spot to you.

Often when we work on ourselves, we lack compassion. We set unrealistic goals and then beat ourselves up or give up when we don’t meet them. Self-development counselling helps you to be more realistic and compassionate towards yourself, supporting you to make sustainable, long-term progress. 

How does self-development counselling help?

It is a wonderful feeling, to sense that you are growing and improving: learning new behaviours, seeing yourself more clearly, and dropping bad habits.

It can be scary too. When we have blind spots, they are blind for a reason! Self-development counselling can involve facing uncomfortable truths about yourself. But if you believe that knowing these things, so that you can choose what to do about them, is better than them remaining unconscious, self-development counselling could be for you.

Some people worry that, without a problem to focus on, they won’t know what to talk about and the sessions will be full of silence. That’s not the case. Your past experiences and your everyday life will provide you with plenty to discuss.

Client Reviews

Taking the next step

If you are unsure whether self-development counselling is for you, book an initial consultation with one of our therapists to find out more. This is an opportunity to discuss what you are looking for and to assess whether the therapist will be able to help you. There is no obligation to continue if it doesn’t feel like the right fit for you.

Each person is unique and our therapists offer a number of different approaches to support you in the way that works best for you. If you know what type of therapy you prefer, you can find out which of our therapists offer it by reading their profiles. If you’re unsure, you may like to book an integrative therapist, as they use a range of different approaches, so can adapt to suit you. Feel free to contact us if you have any questions.

One of our counsellors would love to support your personal growth

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One Therapy London

Counselling, psychotherapy, couples counselling in London since 2006

Roz Urquhart

Roz is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, who offers both long- and short-term psychotherapy She works with a varied client group offering a welcoming, safe and confidential therapeutic space in which to help her clients explore and process the issues that are bringing them into therapy Roz supports her clients to focus on unconscious processes, inner conflicts and...

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Natasha Maidment

Natasha is a person–centred counsellor and psychotherapist who will provide you with a safe, empathetic and non-judgemental space to explore any thoughts or concerns you wish to bring She works with a range of issues including anxiety, stress, critical thoughts, trauma, relationship issues, identity, depression, loss and low self-esteem Natasha offers a...

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Yussef Ferguson

Yussef is a psychodynamic psychotherapist who offers both long and short term personal therapy to individuals He has experience of working with a diverse range of clients and can provide a warm, confidential space to explore and gain insight into any past or present personal difficulties and experiences Yussef works with issues such as anxiety, depression, loss,...

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Therapist Rhiannon Whipps
Rhiannon Whipps

Rhiannon is a psychodynamic counsellor and psychotherapist with over ten years experience of working within the field of mental health Rhiannon provides an empathic and non-judgemental therapeutic space for her clients to explore any difficulties which they may be facing Within the safety of a confidential environment, she encourages her clients to openly explore...

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Therapist Stamatia Lorentzou
Stamatia Lorentzou

Stamatia draws on a broad range of theories of psychotherapy She works collaboratively with her clients to understand the causes of their concern and find ways to move forward Stamatia offers both short-term and longer-term therapy She has worked in various organisational settings with individuals seeking to address relationship issues, low self esteem, separation,...

Bloomsbury

Therapist Barbara Perini
Barbara Perini

Barbara is an accredited member of BACP, holding an MSc in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and adhering to the BACP ethical framework Her approach is open-ended, offering both short-term and long-term therapy Barbara has also trained in Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy (DIT), a short-term (16 sessions), semi-structured individual therapy developed for mood...

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Therapist Catherine Hammett
Catherine Hammett

Catherine offers a safe, confidential space for clients bringing a wide range of issues to therapy  These include anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, anger and work-related stress  Catherine also supports clients experiencing depression, bereavement and life transitions  Among her specialist interests are post-traumatic growth and working with adult...

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Therapist Evan Bates
Evan Bates

Evan is a psychodynamic therapist, offering both long and short term therapy He creates a non-judgemental and reflective space to help clients explore their difficulties and concerns Working together to understand the connections between past and current relationships, Evan supports clients in developing a deeper awareness of their recurring emotional patterns and further...

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Therapist Mita Hiremath
Mita Hiremath

Mita has been involved in the field of counselling and psychotherapy for over 30 years and has a wealth of experience working in the voluntary sector, the NHS and private practice She is a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist Additionally, she holds an MSc in Psychotherapy and is a trained EMDR therapist She has also facilitated support groups in the voluntary...

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Therapist Silvi Naskinova
Silvi Naskinova

Silvi is a psychodynamic psychotherapist offering both long- and short-term therapy  She aims to provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space for her clients to explore whatever is on their minds Her work helps individuals understand how their experiences (both past and present) and any unconscious forces might be impacting their relationships and ways of coping...

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